My Instagram live stream for this week falls on Valentine’s Day! While I’ve never really made a big deal of this day, I felt inspired to celebrate with my audience this year by dedicating my entire live to showing love for dark skin people, especially women, girls, and femmes. Below are the prepared affirmations I share, but be sure to watch the recording to hear the affirmations I read from my audience in the live chat!
I’ve broken these affirmations into 5 categories: Personality, Goals & Ambitions, Mind, Body, and Relationships
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Personality
I don’t need to hide behind an illusion or facade. I’m ready to choose personal expressions, styles, words, behaviors, strides and struts that feel most true to what I choose to be in the moment.
I am able to see past the delusions of oppressive standards and oppressive norms. As I am seeing the truth more clearly, I am empowered with choice, and I am choosing ME. I am empowered with choice, and I am choosing me. I am choosing all of me, the truest idea of me that I have in this moment always.
I never have to impress, unless I find joy in doing so. I never have to perform, if I don’t find pleasure in that. Yes, I can shape shift, but on my own terms.
I am seeing the many possibilities of how and who I can be, and I get to choose the one that feels most truest to me!
Goals & Ambitions
I have power, control, and authority within myself, within my individual domain of life. I am an excellent leader of my life and of myself, and that leads to my success. I do have the power to overcome and be triumphant over my obstacles.
I also have the strategy, the clarity, and strength of choice to successfully pursue my ambitions in any arena.
I invite the highest forms of success that in truest alignment with my highest value, my highest truth, and my integrity.
Mind
I am gaining courage and gaining confidence in exploring new ideas, new possibilities for myself. I do not have to be stuck in the rut of my old thinking. I am breaking free, continuing to learn about me and all that inspires me.
I am exercising patience in this new adventure of exploring the possibilities. I don’t rush my process. I lean into it and appreciate the new insights I discover. With practice, I’m getting mentally stronger and learning how to direct, calm, and train my brain to work with and for me, not against me.
When I’m ready, I can bravely and confidently share my ideas with others and continue to learn and explore and grow in that process as well.
Body
I relax now. I now relax my body. I am now feeling relaxed in my body in my skin.
My skin is not a burden right now. No matter what narratives others have about it, my skin is not the burden.
I feel the absolute luxury of my melanated skin. I pamper and care for my skin like the finest of fabrics.
I celebrate all of the dark skinned mothers who gave birth to dark skinned descendants.
My dark skin right now is a source of comfort.
No matter what narratives others may have, my hair is not something to be ashamed of. I delight in the luxurious texture of my hair. I celebrate my hair’s ability to grow from the deepest roots, roots deeper than even I can know. I care for and pamper my hair like the finest of fabrics. It’s a textile woven with the DNA of my beautify ancestry.
I am learning to love my complexion n every season, at every time of day, in every kind of light–bright, dark, or dim. I am learning the hues that saturate my melanin. I am becoming intimate with every crease, freckle, scar, vein, mole, shadow, every pore of my skin. I admire how my skin stretches, sags, shimmers, dimples, wrinkles, in all the right places!
I can show up. I am here. I can be seen and not shrink. My beauty, worth, value always shines even if others shield their eyes.
I deserve love. I am love. I can experience love at any moment I choose because it’s a vibration, not a romantic relationship.
Relationships
I raise my standards in all relationships. What I have and who I am is extremely valuable and I am getting better at discerning who is deserving of that, of my time, energy, and attention, of me.
I know that prioritizing and caring for myself and my needs is essential, so I implement and maintain the boundaries I need. I know that caring for others requires caring for myself. So I exercise saying maybe later, not now, NO, and never.
I know that just because someone requests or even demands anything of me doesn’t mean I’m obligated to respond, much less give. This includes lighter skinned, non-Black, and white people who seem entitled to my labor.
I am getting so good and so solid with and within me, that it gets easier and easier for me to rise above the fray, and it gets harder and harder for petty vampires to siphon my time, energy, and attention.
I honor all the work I’ve done on myself by not letting lower vibes cause me to regress. As a dark skin Black woman, I am unapologetically prioritizing me, myself, and I!
